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because this so what OCD can look like, and it’s not what you think…
If you’ve followed my blog for any amount of time, you know that we have spent the past year or so really trying to nail down what has been going on with my daughter Lauren. She has struggled with...
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it’s not like popping a zit…
It’s weird the statements that stick out to you. The ones you will remember all your life. Sometimes they are something profound and super spiritual or intellectual. Other times they are the simple...
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the connection conduit built for freedom…
So there’s this way of doing therapy with sexually abused children that is so fantastic. It’s called TFCBT. I love it so much because it works. It contains very specific components which are super...
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With detached arms…
A sort of detached look on her face. Broken. No one glances beyond the scars. Perhaps the scars protect her, but I’m pretty sure they protect me. As if what she has been through is too much. Shards...
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because we cannot be where faith comes to die…
I can already hear one of you agreeing by saying, “Sounds good. You take care of the faith department, I’ll handle the works department.” Not so fast. You can no more show me your works apart from...
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because He fights for the beautiful things…
“Bless your enemies; no cursing under your breath. Laugh with your happy friends when they’re happy; share tears when they’re down. Get along with each other; don’t be stuck-up. Make friends with...
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Valley of dry bones…
So you’ve come to a fork in the road. One path leads to more of the same. The other leads to resistance. One path appears easy. The other looks treacherous and daunting. Your left with this impossible...
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Exhaustion, boundaries, and self care…
So I’ve had some time this weekend to really hash through this thing called self care. Not that I wasn’t previously aware of what it is and why it is important. In fact I have taught a few small...
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A wet brown cold paper bag…
When I began working with victims of sexual abuse, I assumed the abuse itself would be the most painful part. The horrendous unthinkable act. That part is difficult for certain, but it’s rarely the...
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thoughts on magic erasers and proverbial spanx…
I went to see a friend today. The kind of friend you go see when you feel like you are coming undone at the seems and don’t want too much of your ugly to leak out. The kind of friend that you hope can...
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because you need flour to make cake…
Experiencing success can do weird things to us. We should be happy, but instead we feel this weird sense of imposter syndrome. Like we are playing a game everyone else thinks we are good at, but...
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if you really knew me…
How long have you carried around the lie that says…if they knew me…they wouldn’t love me? Or maybe it doesn’t go exactly like that. Maybe it’s more like…if they knew my past, they would think...
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this is how I rise…
People rise in different ways. Some adapt and overcome, easily swimming the seas of adversity. Rapidly scaling walls and hurling themselves over. They rise quickly and rapidly. Rarely leaving behind...
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Depression can wear really dang cute awesome shoes…
Sometimes we’re afraid to pray for healing because it would hurt too bad if we prayed for it and it didn’t happen. It would solidify the abandonment wounds of our past. Not that Christ has ever...
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Because it gets pretty loud in here…
One thing we often fail to associate with anxiety is how dang loud it is. Different than the loudness of the washing machine as it rumbles in the middle of the night when you forget to wash your kids...
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because it’s okay not to be okay…
It’s okay not to be okay, but it’s NOT okay to stay that way. I remember hearing this phrase in middle school. I don’t know if it was a Baptist thing or what…but it was clearly a part of my church...
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perfect peace…
I’ve always had trouble with peace and gone about creating it different ways. Maybe I can organize peace. Or perfect circumstances and they will become peace. Maybe if I feel good enough I will find...
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believe her for more…
Most of us want to be believed in. To be trusted with much. We like others to make an investment. When they do we feel worthy. Less shame. These investors likely come and go…but the impact God allows...
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one handful of peace…
Art by Valerie Wieners Art: www.valeriewienersart.com I find it tremendously valuable to work harder. To be the best. To be the one that others envy due to my consistent willingness to sacrifice. In...
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hypersensitivity, fear of failure, cocktail waitressing, and the making of a...
Hypersensitivity to failure, disapproval, and criticism. I never knew this was a “thing” until I started researching emotions and ADHD. ADDitude magazine describes it like this… “The emotional...
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